The Things I’ve Wanted To Say

I’m going to say what I’ve wanted to say for so long:

I’ve wanted to say that he tore apart a beautiful healthy family.

I’ve wanted to say that he is an abuser.

I’ve wanted to say that being part of this community helped him and hurt his children.

I’ve wanted to say that anyone who gave him aid and support is just as guilty as he is. You never called. You never asked.

I’ve wanted to say that cutting off your children’s health insurance is probably the lowest thing you’ve done in a long line of low things.

I’ve wanted to say that trying to get your family kicked out of the only house they know is also low, low, low.

I’ve want to say that choosing your children’s schools based on your honor and not their needs is wrong.

I’ve want to say that taking the divorce to trial thinking the judge will believe your pathetic claims of poverty to keep from supporting the children was selfish, self serving and could actually lead to your complete downfall.

I’ve wanted to say that your children try to love you because all children love their parents, even the really bad ones. It’s nature and you don’t deserve their love.

I’ve wanted to ask what is a Rabbi’s purpose.

I’ve wanted to ask why no Rabbi supports the children and families privately and publicly, only in big speeches and when speaking in platitudes.

I’ve wanted to know why Rabbis think they know everything about everything when their actual training is in nothing.

I’ve wanted to say that, yes my children are children whose parents are divorced.

I’ve wanted to say that my children’s mother had the courage to leave an abuser despite the shame the community would heap upon her for being divorced.

I’ve wanted to say that people should save their pity for people who want it or truly need it. I’d prefer a high five.

I’ve wanted to ask why all of the matchmakers treat my son like he has a rare communicable disease.

I want to say that it is time for each person to change his or her mindset and stop judging those who have done things differently.

I want to say that it is time for each person to change his or her mindset and stop judging those who look different.

I want to say and yell out loud that: We will heal. We will be whole. We will survive and thrive. Life is for the living and We are alive. Despite all of the damage he has wrought and all of the pain he has caused, We will be great.

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2 Comments

  1. Michelle Hardoon December 25, 2018 at 11:43 am

    Praying for you. You and your family should only have simcha and hatzlach

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  2. Anonymous December 25, 2018 at 3:08 pm

    I want to say congratulations for doing the right thing for yourself and your kids . Stop the cycle

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