I’m Asking For My Husband

I feel like I’m at this point where I’m waiting for my life to begin. I’m as self aware as I can be, as religious as I’m prepared to be, and as mentally stable as I’ll ever be. I don’t know what G-d is waiting for.
I guess no one ever does. But this is different. I’m not praying for health or begging for money. I’m not asking for something that I may or may not receive. I’m not waiting on bated breath to be told that in actuality I descend from royalty.

I’m asking for my husband.

He has been destined to be since the beginning of time. I’m not asking for anything that cannot be received or that You are not willing to give. I’m not asking for anything unreasonable nor original.
I am asking for just one small thing. Just the one. So, G-d, here is my formal request.

Dear G-d,
Please send me the man who is going to be my best friend for the rest of our lives together. My partner in all the good times and the bad. The man whose puke I will clean when he has food poisoning. And whose fart stench I’ll pretend I don’t smell. The one who laughs at my stories and cries when I do. Please send me my loving and patient husband, whose right hand [wo]man I’ll be forevermore. Please send me my zivug. Please send me my bashert. Please send me my chosson. Don’t wait a year, or three, or five. Now is a good a time as any. Please. Send him to me now.


In the words of Tevye of Anatevka, “Would it spoil some vast eternal plan…” if I were a married woman?

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  1. Shelley Shub November 6, 2017 at 3:39 pm

    Dear “Waiting for your Besherte”,
    Everything you’ve written is poignant and sensible.
    Now’s the time for you to work on yourself, while Hashem does His work in bringing you both together.
    We’re never “religious enough”.
    There’s always room for growing and making yourself a holy vessel to bring more light and brachot into your and our world.
    So if I may, I suggest you continue praying to Hashem for your zivug, and do your due diligence for yourself.
    Make yourself that holy vessel, ready to accept your besherte.
    And May Hashem continue to bless you, and get your chattan into your radar, very soon!

  2. Jonathan November 12, 2017 at 3:55 am

    I join your prayers that you find your intended soon. Permit me also to say what I said to my own oldest daughter as she saw her younger siblings get engaged and marry one by one.

    Live your life to the full now. Don’t remain in a state of limbo. Set up your home. Do the things you would like to do. Invite people over. Yes you may change things when you get married, but *live* now and become the best person you can be.

    Good luck and God Bless you!

    (and Yes, TG my daughter is today a happy wife and mother)


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