Frum, Married And Looking

a very unpopular opinion:
it’s not natural to be monogamous. what if we could heal our traumas, explore our sexuality and learn about our deepest needs and desires; openly, unashamedly.
i urge us all to have these conversations with our spouses. our loving husbands and wives might not be able to effectively provide us with what we *really* need to live authentically. i say this as a religious wife and mother. this is not a call to start a frum swingers movement, but a subtle request for openness and empathy in all our marriages.

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  1. Polyamorous December 19, 2019 at 5:05 pm

    Thank you for opening this conversation. I was thinking about doing it myself, recently. My husband and I opened our marriage after many years of monogamy, and it has been the most amazing thing I’ve experienced. I’ve learned so much about my sexuality, my needs and wants, and it has brought my husband and I SO much closer, and we already had a really really really fantastic relationship, with a lot of love and support and communication. The only thing stopping me from writing about it here is that I’m not really religious, so I can’t claim to navigate this aspect of my life as a religious woman.

  2. Railev January 7, 2020 at 2:06 pm

    I feel this so profoundly. My husband is my best friend, yer I crave exploring sexuality outside of my marriage. With him it’s so limited, and I want it all. I talked to him about perhaps having an open marriage but he was not okay with sharing me.


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